Someone I know well hates appointments from the bottom of his heart. She really hates to agree on a certain time and date in the future to meet someone or to do something.
When I examined how she reacts before appointments I found that constantly keep telling herself that she wont catch the appointment on time and so she feels extremely stressed and overwhelmed.
Because each time she arranges an appointment to do something she feels stressed and overwhelmed she started to hate appointments.
She wasnt aware that this why she hates them but all she knew was that arranging appointments is the last thing she wants to do in life.
In short, we dont hate tasks, people or our jobs but we hate the emotions we experience while doing them.
Ask any person who hates his job to give you more details and you will soon find that he hates it because of the emotions he experiences while doing the job (maybe an amount of stress that he cant handle or the fear of the arrogant boss who is managing him)
If that person learned how to manage his stress or to control his fear he wont hate his job anymore!!
The psychology hatred
The first day Sam went to college he was bullied by one of his colleagues in front of everybody.
When Sam went to sleep that day his mind kept wondering of the possible solutions to the bullying problems he faced. One of the suggested solutions by Sams mind came in the form of day dreaming where he saw himself kicking that bully and beating him up in front of everyone
But since the bully is stronger than Sam the suggestion was rejected and so Sams mind found no way to avoid the bullying pain but to keep Sam away of that guy.
Sams mind decided to let him experience bad feelings upon seeing the bully and even when expecting him to show just to keep him away from him, these bad feelings are otherwise known as Hatred
People Hate others when they find themselves helpless
Didnt you just notice something about the operation of the mind?
When the subconscious mind doesnt any solution to the problem it uses hatred as a final resort.
People hate their bosses because they cant shout at them
People hate their jobs much if they cant find alternatives
People hate things when these things harm them and they find themselves unable to defend themselves
In short, the next time you discover that someone hates you, make sure that he is feeling helpless. Instead of feeling bad or thinking that you are not worthy of being loved you should feel sorry for that person.