Where are you going?

Every year, as the New Year rolls in, just about everyone takes time to re-examine the course of their lives. It’s a time-honored tradition. We think about our health, our weight, our financial standing and about the future. And every year we make our resolutions and we vow that this year we will actually keep them.Well. Since everyday that you wake up it is the first day of the rest of your life, you start a New Year right then. Thus any day is a good day to start to re-examine the course of their lives.

Yet we know from experience that the odds are against us. Sooner or later we are bound to give up. In fact, studies show that most people who make resolutions break them by the third week in January. One reason it is the thing to do. I say break that habit and make today the day you start. One issue is timing: Exhausted after the holidays, people are not well-equipped to make life changes. According to psychologist Ellen strow, “There is little correspondence between what people say and what they do.” Are you a person of your word? Do your deeds match your words? Are you just passing hot air and gas? Simply knowing that our resolutions are good for us doesn’t seem to be enough. We know that losing weight and getting in shape will allow us to feel better and live healthier, but it’s not enough. We know that getting into action and building our businesses will bring with it better financial health and even complete financial independence, but it’s still not enough. What’s missing? Where are you really going?

Have you written your goals down on paper? Do you really believe what you write down? Do you have a mentor to help hold you accountable? We seem to envy those who have achieved what we desire. We envy those who are in shape. We envy those who have built strong businesses despite a faltering economy. The key is not to envy or sulk but to study and learn what makes these people capable of achieving what we dream about. Regardless of your past accomplishments or failures, you are fully capable of achieving your dreams. The issue is not what you can or cannot do today but what you are capable of learning and applying in the future. The bottom line is that you are the only person who can cheat you out of success. And you can only do this when you give up. Just you not your spouse, friends, family or anyone else other than the person that lives between your ears.

People who achieve their goals know that nothing will be handed to them on a silver plate. Diet products the world over promise fast results with low effort. Anyone who has every tried a diet product for more than a month knows that there’s a little more to losing weight and keeping it off it than that. Some people realize this and take the other actions needed to achieve results; namely they exercise and watch their caloric intake – they make a lifestyle change. The diet product can help in achieving results but it’s not a magic solution. Yet many people assume that when a diet product fails, it’s the fault of the diet product. And so, like misguided children, they move from one diet product to the next looking for a solution that doesn’t exist. Success in network marketing is no different. People often look to a product or “system” to solve all of their marketing problems and deliver success. It pains me how many times I hear people blame others, their leads, their products, their company, their upline, for their failure. But that’s human nature isn’t it? We always blame ourselves last. And that may be the real difference between those who achieve their dreams and goals and those who don’t. IT is you and only you. Tough mirror to look into, easier to blame others.

Achievers take responsibility for their own actions. By doing that, they know that they are the ones that need to change. If they feel unmotivated, they don’t blame their upline, product or service. Instead they figure out how to get motivated. If they have trouble getting into action, they learn how to schedule and prioritize. They don’t make excuses. If they fear talking to prospects, they learn how prospects think, what they expect and how to build rapport. If they have trouble with technology they read a book or take a class to overcome it. They go out and find a mentor to help. Do you have a mentor that can teach and show you how?

Taking responsibility for your own actions leaves you in control. It empowers you to become the master of your own destiny. This doesn’t mean that systems won’t fail or that products and services will always be marketable. Those corrections can be made at any time. But before you look outside yourself for the problem, always look to yourself first. What could you do differently, what could you learn that could solve the problem? Then go out and do it. As you make changes in your life, realize that chance can be difficult. No matter what changes you are trying to make, research indicates that you must maintain positive action for at least three to six months before reaching a stability level – before it becomes a part of “the new you.” Before stability, the danger always exists of relapsing into old behaviors. Relapse is often looked at as failure. But this doesn’t have to be if you look at it as a learning experience. The mark of an achiever is to acknowledge that you didn’t make it, figure out what you need to do differently and go forward from there. Remember Thomas Edison failed 73 times to get the light to light up. He had over 100 items rejected by the patent office. He never gave up no matter what.It’s the start of a brand new DAY. All possibilities are open to you. The choice between success and failure is up to you. Where are you going?

Copyright (c) 2007 Robin Rushlo