Are you looking to boost your self-confidence? Unsure where to start? Are you seeking an experienced coach, but uncertain by what metrics to qualify their expertise? What follows are eight quick tips every coach should be including in their confidence training regimen that you can use now to become a confident person.
#1 LETTING GO OF PAST FAILURES – A self-confidence coach should begin by encouraging you to let go of your previous mistakes and failures, because these memories sap your confidence and the belief in your self-worth.
#2 POSITVE AFFIRMATION – The very first step in the process is to believe in yourself. You need to shut out the negativity that creeps onto the edges of your life. Continually remind yourself that you are a great person, run over the list of your positive attributes, and go into every potential meeting situation building yourself up. Do not succumb to your doubts.
#3 DETERMINATION – You need to make a commitment to yourself to be the best you can be, to push past the negativity and embrace a better life. It’s easy to give into the doubts, to resign yourself to the defeats of each day and let pessimism prevail. It actually requires no effort on your part. It takes effort to push past these limitations and achieve your goals. Start with something simple. Identify one small thing you want to change, and keep working until you achieve this goal. Then try a couple of others. Soon, you’ll be making an entire list of goals and crossing each and every one off.
#4 RECOGNIZE STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESS – A trainer should work with you on identifying the strengths and weaknesses of your interpersonal skills.
#5 SHORE UP THOSE WEAKNESSES – Your trainer should then help you codify a plan to mitigate your weaknesses and accentuate your strengths with a focus on improving your self-confidence.
#6 OVERCOME DOUBT – Doubt and fear are powerful enemies to self-confidence. They are natural experiences in confidence! Voltaire said, “Doubt is uncomfortable, certainty is ridiculous.” What matters is how you handle these experiences. Be determined and act with a positive outlook. I recommend you read Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers for more help on this topic.
#7 SUPPORT NETWORK – No one does it alone, and no one is expected to. A trainer should work with you on identifying and utilizing an appropriate support network. You need to find a support apparatus to help you achieve your goals. If the friends you have now are content to wallow with you in negativity, find new friends. Friends are powerful influencers at shaping your behavior. Find a support system to get going forward into the person you want to be.
#8 PRACTICE – Practice makes perfect. If you fail at a thing, it is far too easy to give up, to let the fear and the doubts win. Any expert worth his or her salt will dedicate a large portion of your self-confidence training sessions to role playing social and professional situations, working with you to navigate through them successfully.