The unitive approach to coaching is not based on any pre-conceived theory or set of beliefs. It has evolved organically over a period of years as a result of my own long experience in the field of personal and professional development.
Unitive coaching uses an entirely non-directive one-to-one tutorial format to establish a creative co-operation between client and coach. It works by encouraging the development of each client’s innate self-awareness and uniquely personal mode of expression. Instead of asking leading questions aimed at some pre-conceived ‘solution’ or imagined goal, the unitive approach acts as a mirror, reflecting the potential power and innate authenticity of each individual back to its source. In this way, clients are enabled to provide solutions to their own problems. By realising new and lasting insights into their own internal process, they make the necessary changes they will need to transform their lives.
My unitive approach is fundamentally different from ‘directive’, that is, cognitively-based coaching, which sets out to influence and re-train people by the application of prescribed and goal-oriented programmes of varying quality, made up of boxed sets of hard-and-fast techniques. Its also very different to that of psychotherapy and counselling. What the unitive coaching tutorial programme does, and does most effectively, is to facilitate the self-liberating insight that all our personal problems have no actual existence in real life but stem from the acquired and illusory ways in which we have learned to perceive it.
The unitive coaching process represents a comprehensive tutorial framework within which a valid individual authenticity can be built. It provides a comprehensive introduction to the theory and practice of personal and professional self-empowerment and the development of insight, true awareness and authentic interpersonal communication.
The unitive approach to the process of self-discovery is not only eminently practical but also covers every aspect of the whole person.
– at the rational level, it works experientially to bring to awareness obsolete and redundant patterns of acquired behaviour
– at the emotional level it seeks to reconcile spontaneous feelings with intellectual insight
– at a psychological level, it aims to empower individuals with self-knowledge and the strength of their unique authenticity
– and at the higher, integrated level of intuition, its goal is to facilitate personal development on issues of imagination, spirit and creativity
Theres an old saying that goes, We dont see the world as it is; we see it as we are. Youll never be able to see whats really going on in the present if your attitudes and patterns of behaviour remain stuck in the past, with your eyes staring at an unchanging inner landscape. If you want to become aware of who you really are to start feeling comfortable in your own skin youll need to examine your own habitual outlook on life; discover its hidden and negative function, and work to bring it up to date and relevant to present reality. Its a demanding and often difficult task, but youll find the rewards are enormous.
Personal authenticity is all about experiencing each event in life in the light of present reality, instead of through the distorting mirrors of the past. This will necessarily involve you in what might at first appear to be a frightening thing to do. In order to access your innate sources of personal wisdom, youll need first to let go of those bits of your previously acquired stuff thats now become useless to cast off your old protective clothing and immerse yourself completely in whatever new experience life may come up with.
Once youve become part of that experience, your entire being mind, body and spirit will become an instrument for opening up receptive channels of communication between your own true responses and those of the people who share your present environment. Instead of trying to influence events from the outside, youll find youve become an integral part of them. Its a magical process: experiencing the power of the present instead of just observing it.
Within yourself you have the potential to integrate your internalised conflicts into a unitive whole, greater than the sum of its separate parts. Unitive coaching provides a level playing field where coach and client face each other as equals. Instead of assuming a directive role, it identifies the true nature of the personal authenticity and power habitually surrendered to experts and authority figures and brings it back home where it belongs.