The Proverb 31 Woman: Clothed in Gentle Strength

Living in the 21st century, we can sometimes get a skewed idea of what a strong woman really is. But your Heavenly Father actually reveals what He considers to be a woman of true strength in Proverb 31.

“Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies” (Proverb 31:10).

The Hebrew word that is often translated as virtuous in this scripture is “chayil.” It is the specific word that God uses to describe His idea of a REAL woman.

In Hebrew, “chayil” is used to describe great forces and armies. For a woman to be called “chayil,” she would have to possess a certain strength, might, and power!

Considering the fact that Proverb 31 describes the kind of woman fit to be a queen, there is no wonder why she is no wimp. “Strength and dignity are her clothing” (Proverb 31:25 AMP).

But what kind of strength does God value? Being able to work 60+ hours and still make time to keep the house clean and cook dinner. Is that where a woman’s true strength and value lies?

Not to your heavenly Father.

As a child of God, you are not fighting against flesh and blood enemies. So the strength that He wants to clothe you in is not a kind that the world understands (Ephesians 6:12).

Your might does not come from how much you can accomplish in one day. It flows out of your relationship with your Father.

Sometimes, it is easy to be so busy running around doing things for God, that you forget all He really wants is your heart. He wants time alone with you to mold you into the Christian woman that He created you to be.

That is how the Proverb 31 woman gets her strength. “She girds herself with strength [spiritual, mental, and physical fitness for her God-given task]” (Proverb 31:17 AMP).

We could all spend more time girding ourselves up spiritually for the daily tasks that God has for us. More time sitting at His feet like Mary. Doing a women’s Bible study, or meditating on His matchless love and grace.

Of course God appreciates all of your “works”. But, let’s look at it from a different perspective.

Have you ever heard a wife complain about how much her husband works? She knows that he is working for her and their family, but she would rather have that time with him.

That is how we all feel about the ones we love. And that is how your Heavenly Father feels about you.

He loves you, and wants to spend time with you. In fact, He would rather have time alone with you, than watch you work – Even if you are really working for Him.


Because, like any relationship, your relationship with God is built in those times alone together. Talking and listening. Sharing secrets that you would never tell anyone else. Becoming friends.

As you go before the Lord and become His friend, He will begin to transform you into the woman that He created you to be.

Like the Proverb 31 Woman, He will clothe you in a strength and dignity all your own.