An old adage says that no one will love you until you first love yourself. That can be tricky to do, because you may not be able to see all of your own wonderful qualities. Positive reinforcement can be a powerful tool in improving your self-esteem. The easiest way to do this is through self talk exercises.
Self talk is that little voice inside your head that comments on everything you do. Confident people hear a voice that says “good job”, “you look great today” and “you deserve wonderful things”. These people feel smart, attractive and worthy. If you suffer with low self-esteem, the self talk is critical and even demeaning. It can be a constant reminder that you feel inferior to others.
The first thing that you need to do is understand that the nagging, critical voice is wrong. You certainly do possess all of the qualities you need to be a confident person and lead a fulfilling life however you may need to tell yourself over and over until you realize that it is the truth. This is one of the hardest exercises for people with low self-esteem to do, because they may not believe it at first. Use positive affirmation and self talk to change what you believe, and you will attain the good things that you deserve.
Self-talk determines how you act toward others and how they, in turn, will react to you. If you tell yourself that you’re truly confident, you’ll act in a way that inspires trust in other people. On the other hand, self-talk that convinces you of uncertainty and a lack of confidence will cause you to act in a way that will create doubt in others.
It can be hard to face the little voice in your head, but you need to do it in order to break the vicious cycle. Hear the negative messages, and react to them by reinforcing your own positive messages. Positive self-talk is the first and most important step in improving your own self-esteem.
Changing your self image can be a big job. If you’d like extra help or more information, there is a wide selection of self-help CDs, books and videos available on the market. Support groups and self-improvement seminars are great ways to find the personal backing you need to succeed. Use the Internet and search your library or book store for the resources that are available to you.
If you try self-improvement methods without success, you should consider speaking with a professional counselor or therapist who is an expert in self-esteem improvement. Combining the strength of personal counseling with the added reinforcement of self-help tools can only improve your chances of success.
Your time is valuable, and so are you. Don’t waste another minute listening to the nagging voice in your head. Tell yourself you’re better than that, and get ready to start living the life you deserve.