Shyness can be a very serious problem. It can keep you from making friends, finding a mate, or even getting and holding onto a good job. Fortunately, there are some definite steps that you can take to overcome shyness that will help to alleviate the problem.
One of the most important steps to over come shyness is to break it down. Make a list of all the situations you can think of that make you feel shy.
Next, rank them in order, from the easiest down to the most difficult. Now, try to tackle at least one of these situations every day. That is, every day, deliberately enter into a difficult situation so that you can practice dealing with it.
Extremely shy people may have difficulty just saying “Hi” to someone, so practicing that might be at the top of their list. others may have difficulty when asking an attractive member of the opposite sex out on a date. Indeed, many people who do not have any problem speaking to people otherwise may find that shyness creeps in when around an attractive member of the opposite sex.
Another one of our steps to over come shyness is Mental Rehearsal. This is helpful for those situations that can’t be broken down into easier components, such as asking a pretty girl out on a date as well as when dealing with stumbling blocks.
For example, let’s say that every time you try to talk to someone, you “clam up.” How are you going to practice talking to someone if you can’t get yourself to do it?
This is where mental rehearsal comes in. You relax yourself completely (although not so completely that you might fall asleep) at a time when you know you will not be interrupted. Now you vividly see yourself in a situation that you have trouble with.
Hear the sounds, see the people. Visualize yourself interacting in this difficult situation effectively and confidently. Actually see and hear yourself saying the things that you want to say while in this situation. The more vividly you can visualize it, the better. At the end, visualize yourself feeling very good about a situation that went well.
Follow these steps to over come shyness rigorously and on a daily basis, and you are certain to see definite results in a short time. Good luck!