I once worked with somebody who told me that whenever she wanted to become friends with someone, she would keep being friendly with them until she forced them to become friends. It didnt matter to her whether the other person liked her or disliked her, or if they were completely indifferent.
She would just keep on talking to that person, making conversation with them, asking them out for coffee, until eventually in most cases they became friends.
I was quite astounded by this, because in those days I didnt have the courage to talk to anyone unless I was really sure that they liked me. If they didnt already show that they liked me, I would avoid them. I didnt realize that I had the power to start conversations and start relationships with other people, even if the other person didnt seem interested in me in the beginning.
Is it really possible to force someone to become your friend, even if they seem to dislike you? When you meet someone who doesnt seem to like you, should you be trying to force that person to become your friend?
I have known several cases where it happened that a relationship eventually developed between two people who didnt seem to like each other much in the beginning. In most cases, this happened because one person did a lot of pushing and talking to get the relationship going.
So, is this something you should try? Should you try to make friends with, or have a date with someone who doesnt seem to like you very much? Should you try to befriend that person? Or should you just give up on them? After all, there are plenty of other fish in the sea, as the saying goes.
Sometimes you really want to have a relationship or friendship with a particular person. It may be because you are very attracted to them, or maybe you just find them interesting.
What if they reject you? Can you live with that? Or will you feel humiliated?
In a case like this, where you suspect the other person doesnt like you, you will probably be more successful if you take things slowly. Dont suddenly try to invite them to a major event. Just start out making small talk with them whenever you can. Try to discover what their interests are. Show that you care about their opinion. But, dont try to be too eager, or too nice. Dont try too hard to be helpful. That would make you seem too needy.
Strive to be casual, low key, yet confident. Be respectful.
Remember what they tell you from one occasion to the next. Show an interest in what they have to say.
There are many cases of people who have become successful friends, lovers, or even marriage partners, even though in the beginning of the relationship, only one person wanted the relationship to happen, and the other person wanted nothing to do with them.
If you really want to have a relationship with that person, even if they dont seem to like you, there is always a chance that it can work. You will have to have a lot of courage, and persistence, and perhaps a thick skin. In the end, you may succeed, or you may fail. There are no guarantees.
The only guarantee is that if you dont try, you will fail for sure.