Shyness is a very important issue, that nervousness that overcomes in certain social situations. It can be definite like having difficulty in creating a friendship or even starting a conversation with the one we meet.
Shyness can start in someone’s personality from early childhood. A shy people may be viewed as overly serious, even humorless because for him it can be difficult to do something as a smile, or even say ‘ hello’ to somebody. He does not know how to start a conversation or how to handle in certain situations, so they tend to hide.
Shy people date less; they are more focused on themselves than others when in conversation. They have irrational beliefs about what other people think about them. They are considered less friendly, not interested, and even boring. Therefore, loneliness can come from shyness.
The problem with shyness is that we built negative beliefs about ourselves based on lack of skills. Shyness has several components that interact and affect the mind, body and behavior of a shy person.
If you are a shy person, you are probably somewhere between uncomfortable and paralyzed at the thought of meeting new people to the point where it interferes with your goal of dating and ultimately having an intimate relationship.
People who fear meeting another people, asking for dates, or divulging personal information are at a significant disadvantage in the dating game. Many women are looking for shy men, but since you are too timid, you may get alone. Therefore, if you are a shy person you have to overcome your shyness if you want to attract the one you like.
First, recognize that you have a problem, and talk with someone about this. Constructive counseling can help. Have self-confidence; do not be afraid to start to talk with everyone you meet, you will see that you have so many things to share.
Get out and socialize, join activities in which you are always interacting with people, like disco, clubs, parties, gym or even colleges.
Your shyness is triggered by the inability to approach someone that you consider attractive. This occur when you think about your flaws, you have the fear of rejection. You approach her by engaging her in conversation.
Start with a smile, show her that you are friendly and approachable, and start a small talk. If she make you feel intimidate, and even if you make a small mistake do not lose yourself. Do not worry; she will forgive you faster than you think.
Do not take things personally if she make any joke, comment or insinuation at your address, she does not make it to upset you. Laugh with her and show her that you are a good listener and you like spending time with her.
After you will get over your shyness, you will see that your life will change totally.