One thing common to all great communicators is that when they speak, everybody listens. However, communicating to people is one of the greatest fears for most of the human beings, and especially when it comes to public speaking.
Confident communication however, is more than what you speak. It takes into account your body language as well.
Here are 4 thinking patterns that’s inside the mind of a successful communicator.
1. Confident communicators aren’t a know all. Of course, you need to have good knowledge about the subject you are talking about, but what actually matters is not what you say, but how you say it.
2. Successful people don’t do different things, they do things differently. The first step is to believe in what you say. You must be fully convinced in the idea and only then will there be conviction in the tone of your voice. Your voice now is equipped with the power to hold people’s attention.
3. Confident communicators don’t let people make them nervous. Most people suffer from fearing catastrophes that never happen. Most people tend to make a very high imaginary impression of other people in their minds. 4. Mind your body language. Your gesture, postures and eye contact probably talk louder than your words. Body language cuts across all barriers of communication such as language, time, place, knowledge and so on. Your body language starts getting interpreted unconsciously by everyone around. People start forming impressions about you the moment you make an eye contact and body language certainly contributes a considerably large part of the impression you make.
Try to learn from your experiences and there is no reason why you can’t make it. Get going.
By the way, did you know that self confidence is the main problem of most communicators? Discover 3 facts on how to communicate more confidently, in public, in a group or in your family.
Here are 3 facts you must know about how to be a better communicator that you thought possible.
– You may have a sad expression on your face because of some other matter, but the person you are talking to may feel that you don’t approve what he says, leading to misunderstanding. Be fully concentrated on the other person. Keep your mind alive and don’t be distracted. Distraction leads to misunderstanding, misunderstanding leads to mistrust. Mistrust leads to less business. It’s that simple.
– A steady gaze may convey intensity, anger, aggression or strong interest. Little eye contact may imply lack of confidence or shyness. My rule in public speaking is: Make good eye contact for 3 to 5 seconds, then look at another part of the face, lips, eyebrows or mouth. If you’re afraid of making eye contact, work on it, work on your self confidence and especially your self esteem.
– Open hands may convey honesty and openness; however, making a lot of hand gestures might mean that you are being nervous. Synchronize your gestures with the words you speak. Don’t move too fast. Don’t speak too fast either. Keep everything simple. The simpler the better.
Confident communication, including words and gestures, is something that you do not perfect in a day. You must grab every opportunity to communicate. Try to check your communication skills, your strong points and the mistakes you make along with the overall affect on the other person.