Most people feel like at least one area of their lives is a mess.You may be successful in your career, but notice that your relationships are not up to par. You may have an amazing spouse or partner, but are struggling with your health or finances. You may be that woman who appears to have it all, but inside you feel hollow and empty. Or, you simply may feel like your whole life is a mess.
Sure, bad things happen to you. It may even be true that ore than your fair share of bad things. But, there’s only one person in this entire world who can determine whether you will be happy and successful. That’s YOU! Only you can turn your life (or any aspect of it) from a mess to success.
I had to learn this the hard way. Despite a tremendous amount of “external success,” I spent many years feeling like a victim because of all the painful situations I had faced (rejection, abuse, infidelity, and divorce, to name a few). I was so sad and angry that my life wasn’t the way I wanted it to be. I either blamed the circumstances, other people, or myself for my unhappiness. What I didn’t realize at the time was that every time I engaged in blame, I gave my power away.
My life started to change for the better when I started to accept 100% responsibility for my life and my happiness. When you accept full responsibility for your life, you stop feeling like a victim and engaging in blame. Instead, you accept that you are responsible for creating your own happiness. You can’t always change your circumstances, but you can absolutely change how you choose to view and react to the messes in your life.
Here are a few steps you can take to convert the messes in your life to success:
1. Accept that you have a choice. Most people have an unconscious tendency to blame or feel victimized (Note, it doesn’t have to be an overall tendency; it may be specific to a particular aspect of your life). Because this tendency is a well-worn pattern, it happens so quickly and effortlessly that they don’t realize that they made a choice to view the circumstances in a dis empowering way. Recognizing that you have a choice is the first step to converting your mess to a success.
2. Commit to reclaiming your power. Each time you engage in blame, you give away your power. Find out how you give your power away. Commit to changing this dynamic. To firm up this commitment, state out loud: “I accept full responsibility for my life, happiness, and success.” Let the words resonate in your body. Own the statement; don’t just say it.
3. Take action. Ask yourself, “What is in my control that I can do to achieve success and happiness in this area of my life?” Then do the things you come up with.
Converting the mess in your life to success takes time. Be patient with yourself and your process. When you engage in old unhelpful patterns, dust yourself off, recommit, and try again. Take time to notice what’s working (there’s at least one thing!) and remind yourself of all the things you have accomplished.
Here’s to your evolution, goddess!