Living In Fear of Being Dumped

What does this fear really mean? You’re definitely feeling insecure in your relationship, but there may be different reasons that are giving rise to this feeling.

For some people it may have little to do with the current relationship, but a fear that is carried forward as a reaction to past experiences. For others it may be solely due to circumstances within the current relationship. Perhaps there is a feeling of inadequacy that could in itself have many different root causes. Or maybe it has something to do with the way in which your partner is treating you.

Whatever the root cause is, something needs to be done to relieve this feeling as otherwise it will remain a destructive and negative force in your life in general as well as within the confines of your relationship. Your feelings in one area of your life inevitably have an impact upon other areas of your life and color your experiences in general.

It is often the case that to enable one to deal with fear you have to identify the worst-case scenario that you are afraid of and accept that this might happen. It is only then that you can ask yourself the question of what you might be able to do so as to improve the outcome. Then you can begin to think in a positive manner and work to achieve your goals. Your mind will be working for you instead of against you.

In contrast, if you focus upon your fear and the feelings of being afraid you will remain trapped in a downward spiral. As you imagine the things that might happen you will inadvertently provide energy that adds fuel to the flames. Allowing yourself to remain in the mindset of “I can’t cope if he/she dumps me” merely makes you more insecure and paves the way to practically ensuring that your partner does dump you.

It is a known fact that your imagination is an incredibly powerful tool. Your imagination paves the way to your reality. What you imagine tends to happen. And so it is very important to find ways to shift your focus away from your fears and instead focus upon what you do want to happen and to imagine your relationship as you would like it to be.

Hypnosis is a powerful ally in this process as it allows you to take a step back from your situation. As you step back you can see things more clearly. You can be more objective. And this is important, because fear destroys objectivity. Once you view your situation clearly, you can identify more easily what part of your current issue is caused by you, and so you can change it.

There is that other person in your relationship and usually relationship issues are caused by the way in which you interact. You can learn to control your own actions and reactions but you cannot change the other person. That person will change if and when they want to. You cannot make them do anything that they do not want to do.

But you can talk to them. You can communicate in a better way. You can also take control of your own emotions by deciding what you are willing to put up with and what you will not. In any good relationship there is compromise on both sides. When you find yourself compromising too much you become uncomfortable. You have to know where to draw the line.

When using hypnosis you access the part of your mind that is more creative and so you can visualize things more easily. You can get your imagination working for you, seeing yourself and your relationship as you would like it to be. You can visualize yourself feeling more secure and more confident and acting in a more positive manner. As I said before, your imagination paves the way to your reality and so you can use hypnosis to help create good relationships.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis mp3 downloads to help you create good relationships.

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