It makes a lot of sense to ask a billionaire about ways of making money or becoming rich.
And if we were to ask people about the things we want if they already own them then it makes a lot of sense to ask happy people about happiness.
2 days ago i was walking in a big park full of small children (around 5-8 years old) and as a psychologist i couldn’t prevent myself from analyzing their behavior as i was walking around. What i discovered then is that those little children weren’t just happy but they were also the perfect subject we could study to learn how real happiness can be acquired.
In this article i will tell you about my observations about happiness which can help you be really happy.
Why are they so happy?
These are some of the many reasons that make children really happy (at least when they are playing):
* They live consciously: I didn’t find a kid worrying about the long school day he will go through the next week nor i found a kid obsessed about the last horrible school day he had. In short, in most cases we never feel happy because we either live in the past or in the future but never in the moment
* They love what they do: A small car arrived and a little kid came out of the car, said goodbye to her mom and ran very quickly towards the place she was going to play at. The little girl didn’t drag her feet or think that she might become bored because she was very excited. Most of us aren’t happy because we do things that we hate, do you like your job? do you like your studies? do you have false beliefs that makes you believe that you are trapped in a certain reality that couldn’t be changed? if you want to be really happy then you must do what you love or at least include lots of it in your daily schedule
* They believe that everything is possible: Again i didn’t find a little kid at that age feeling bad because of expecting that something that he wants would never happen. Compare this to your way of thinking and to how you developed hundreds of false beliefs about the future that resulted in loss of hope and depression.Depression can be nothing more than loss of hope towards getting something that you really wanted
* They have passion for what they do: Did you try to talk to a small kid while he is playing? in many times he might not even notice you because he is deeply involved in what he is doing. Again compare this to yourself, how many boring tasks do you do believing that this is how life should be?? If you want to be really happy then you must do the things that you have passion for
Get out of you prison and you will become really happy
Who told you that your favorite hobby can’t be your job?
Who told you that that a poor experience in the past determines how will the future look like?
Who told you that you can’t be happy??
If you want to be really happy then you must get out of the prison of false beliefs so that your mind becomes open to new possibilities. Once you will start having hope you will start being happy.
One final thing, watch little kids playing and you will learn a lot about happiness.