I was looking for peanuts and I found treasure!

What is it that makes some people successful and some others unsuccessful, mediocre or right down failures? What is the difference? Is it heredity? Is it self determination? In my effort to answer this question, I would like to separate people in these two groups. The successful ones I call “the silly, lucky few”, the not so successful I call the “too smart for their own good many”. The first group are the ones who are silly enough to go looking for peanuts and in the process they stumble across the treasure that makes them successful. The second group are too smart than to waste time looking for peanuts and of course never come across the secret to success. In order to demonstrate my point I will draw a parallel from the world of psychotherapy. The primary assumption there is this. The psychopathic individual’s greatest obstacle to rehabilitation is the inability to form and maintain social relationships. All psychotherapy is, is the attempt to form a functional and satisfying client-therapist relationship. During this process the client learns the social skills of, respect for another, accountability, self respect etc. All these skills can eventually make the client better equipped to form other relationships in his or her life, in order to help in overcoming their psychopathic antisocial behaviors. One might say that forming just one relationship and that with a paid therapist is peanuts. And yet this is the practice field where the client will find the skills to be better adjusted in the future. The client-therapist relationship is the peanuts. The learning of the skills is the treasure. This is the model that I see at work in contrasting successful and not so successful people. The successful ones are those who have gone for the peanuts. They have some interest, some passion that appears ridiculous to be spending time, money and energy on. To the average person it would appear silly to go into great pains in order to develop to great perfection a passion like collecting stamps or surfing like a pro or just about anything you can think of. And yet, it is the people who go after such “peanuts” that find the real treasure. In their pursuit of perfecting their passion, they stumble across the real treasure. They develop self discipline, self reliance, the ability to motivate themselves, all the skills that are needed to be successful in any pursuit they undertake. Of course you might say, “I have missed that boat, I never had a passion like that, I always considered it a waste of time to pursue anything like that”. Well, do not despair, there is always time to improve yourself. There are many methods of self improvement. Just find the one that suits you the best and go after it until you develop it to perfection. Any method is good because it is not the method
that is the “peanuts”. It will be what the pursuit of that method will teach you that is the real treasure.

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