How to Respond to Criticism in Relationships – On Communication and Inferiority

Criticism is a powerful and dangerous destroyer of not only relationships, but also in making people feel inferior. Feelings of unworthiness, shame, and guilt, are all dangerous emotions often created in us when we are criticized. You need to learn how to respond to this style of poor communication so it doesn’t destroy your relationships and doesn’t make you feel inferior.

The primary factors of the conditioning aspect that determines whether you become inferior or rise above the circumstance is your attitude towards criticism and failure. Don’t forget that there is the creative imagination aspect which is a more powerful influence towards feeling inferior; yet criticism and failure are the powerful influences within the conditioning aspect.

Criticism and failure will always be banging at your door to success. Unfortunately, most of us let the two get a foot hold within our lives and from there the problems expand themselves. Criticism compounds criticism and failure demotivates you resulting in more failure. You will never be able to eliminate criticism or failure. Therefore, to overcome an inferiority complex you cannot expect yourself to not fail or to not receive criticism. Overcoming your inferiority complex is a matter of learning and moving on while maintaining a goal-focused attitude.

I have found that the more people who subscribe to my newsletter (“Top Tips”), the more visitors Tower of Power receives, and the more people who read my articles and free resources, the more criticism I receive. I get excited with this and energized because I know the criticism is a sign of achievement (I am sober as I type this). You and I will always have our critics provided we are not mediocre. Anyone who has achieved anything notable sooner or later receives criticism. The great Greek philosopher, Aristotle, said “Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”

When you feel criticism is a signal of your unworthiness then it begins to stimulate inferiority, shame, and failure. Don’t take criticism personally and think you are a failure. If criticism is justly deserved then use it as feedback to adjust your course of action as it guides you back on the path of not feeling inferior.

You need to know that other’s criticism towards you will either be an attempt to improve your life, be a release of frustration, or a sign of the person’s own problems. Sometimes you can take the criticism as a sign of you progressing forward in life! Rarely is people’s criticism a signal of your problems. It is more frequently a sign of their poor communication in interpersonal relationships.

There is a lot more you can learn about inferiority and criticism to improve how you handle difficult situations and increasing your feelings of self-worth so I encourage you to continue learning about this topic. Overcoming inferiority and having great communication is possible if you work at it.