The Snowball Effect
Oh my God, Its four Pm!!
I should arrive there within a maximum of 10 minutes
But what if I didnt arrive on time!
I may miss a part of the exam, thats really terrible I cant afford to lose any more marks
And if I didnt do well in this exam my mood will get a blow
Now with bad grade in one more subject I could fail this year!!
And if I didnt graduate earlier I may not find a job!! After all there seems to be a recession on doors.
HEY HEY STOP!!!!! You are only late for 10 minutes and now you are thinking about failing and a recession !! Dont laugh at this story because we all do exactly the same thing but without noticing, it all starts by a small seed, the unwanted event, then negative thinking turns the samll seed to a big tree and sometimes a forest!!
Why do you think your mood suddenly swings without an apparent reason? Its the snowball effect, a tiny event may have happened but your self talk kept expanding it until it became a catastrophe. Although the above example may be a little exaggerated, if you just watched your self talk you will discover that you even create larger snow balls out of nothing!! Whats really funny is that, in most cases, the event that happened will have no bad impact on your life at all and even if it did, it would be a minimal impact compared to your imagined huge snowball.
What Negative Thinking Can Do
Lots of people ask me whether negative thinking is the cause for lack of self confidence or not, in fact, negative thinking is not the cause for lack of self confidence but negative thinking is the direct agent that interacts with your beliefs and so its whats responsible for changing your idea about yourself. For example, if negative thinking was used to reinforce a false belief about your looks then most probably the result will be lack of self confidence.
In other words, negative thinking is the tool used by your mind to eat out your self confidence, to swing your mood and to even depress you. One other dangerous thing about negative thinking is that your emotions does not change except after a few phrases of self talk are played in your mind, so any unwanted emotional change that happens to you is caused by negative thinking or negative self talk.
How to Overcome Negative Thinking
Life is full of annoying events and if each event left you with a negative snow ball then you will stay down forever. If you want to avoid this then you should follow some of these practices in order to minimize your negative thinking:
* Dont create snow balls: Sometimes we cant hold ourselves from having negative thoughts, if thats the case, then dont grow these negative thoughts bigger and just focus on how to deal with the new situation
* Accept the Change: When an unexpected event happens we usually go through some stages before we return back to our previous mental state. The last one of these steps is acceptance and the one just before it is bargaining. In bargaining the person usually keeps thinking of the reasons that caused the bad event and of the bad consequences that will follow, usually this is the stage where negative thinking is at its peak, if you want to move away faster from this stage then you must learn how to accept the new events. Acceptance may sound like an intuitive advice but its not, if you want to be able to accept new and unexpected events then you should know about the psychology of acceptance, this article will explain to you everything about acceptance and it will give you the Know-how of acceptance.
* Have Faith: In the middle of the darkness there is usually no room for positive thinking, after all, why have a positive attitude while there is no possible way out? And here comes faith into play, faith is the only thing that can withstand the worst unexpected life events yet keep you optimistic. I dont like the idea of believing in God just because we need a God and thats why I am not asking you to do so, but i am only asking you to seek your answers, if you dont believe in God then search for him in order to know whether you are on the right track or whether you should belief in him.