When you’re a parent, your prime objective is to keep your child safe, well adjusted and happy. You can’t stop being a parent ever – even if your children are adults – but the worst part is being a parent to children of 18 years old and less. Caring for them and making them happy as well as safe is a difficult and ungrateful task, especially when children do not seem to understand you and your motives. Then, the parental stress is very probable to show up.
The problem is that children demand a lot from their parents, often more than they can provide. Unless parents are able to convince their children to give up their wishes (in some other way than just saying “no”), the entire family will suffer from stress. As such situations are inevitable, it is a good idea to learn how to deal with that, especially considering that the problem gets worse with the age.
Another source of parental stress is school and (later) relationships. While parents have to (and often really do) give all advice and support they can, such problems are long-term and can persist even for years. Teaching children how to cope with them and how to make right decisions is necessary not only from children’s point of view. It is also the only way to stop parental stress level from growing.
The problems related to parenting can easily overwhelm even the strongest individuals. There are more than a couple of parents who start hating their children because of perceived lack of gratitude on the side of the children. Parents feel hurt, children feel as if they were left alone and the whole family is on the verge of catastrophe. You have to act before getting to that point and get the problems under control ASAP.
Patience and ability to quickly cool down are two most important abilities of every parent. Do not attempt to shout at children or start rows only to reduce your stress level. If you face a stressful situation where you’re about to say something you’d be sorry about later, walk away and take your time to cool down, then return and discuss the facts.
Leave your work problems behind before you get back home. There is no reason why you should aggravate the situation at home because your boss is less than intelligent. Always make a short break before going home – take a deep breath, have a cup of coffee and read some newspaper article. This will let you relax before coming home.
And the last tip: breathe! It works for all kinds of stress, including parental stress. Deep breaths let you cool down and relax allowing you to continuing as a good and relaxed parent and maintain your family in good mood.