I hear people often say things like, “It’s great to be spiritually aware and peaceful, but I still feel there are things I want to achieve, have and do, how do I do that while still being mindful?
Let me be clear, theres nothing wrong with wanting more, its part of our abundant nature. Its the thinking attached to the things we achieve, have or do that leads us astray.
Out of this, I’ve decided to give you a formula that is guaranteed to succeed for you when all 3 elements are in alignment with each other!
The Formula is:
You x (Thoughts + Actions) = Results/Outcomes
Or, Y x (T + A) = R
This is the most important part of the equation and involves you being still enough to know exactly what it is that you want. Most people will say they know what they want but in reality theres so much happening around them that its just something that sounds nice, for e.g. I want a new car.
You need to be crystal clear on what it is that you truly want because without the clarity, you wont have the focus required. So go into a quiet room, sit in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and ask the question, What is it that I truly want?
If other thoughts come in, allow them to pass through and keep asking the question. Youll know when you have the right answer because it will fill you with enthusiasm and excitement.
If no answer comes, then leave it and return to it tomorrow, spend at least 15 minutes with it each day until something comes.
Remember, this is a critical step, the YOU part of this equation is the foundation and your thoughts and actions are surface structures, without a foundation all buildings crumble!
Once youre clear on what it is you want, you need to be vigilant of what youre thinking because the old conditioned (unconscious part) of you will probably not be comfortable with change and will look to sabotage efforts. This is where your mindfulness practice comes in handy, notice the objections that come up in you in wanting to change. In you noticing them, they lose their power to influence you.
Action is the final step, unlike a lot of self-help tools out there that say action is the most important aspect of getting what you want. When the steps above are taken care of, action becomes a natural flow from that. You find that youre actually motivated to take action because youre clear about what you want and understand the importance of it. Action is only becomes work when youre doing something that isnt in alignment with what you really want. Action becomes a pleasure when it is in alignment with what you want and thats something that a lot of people dont experience yet.
Final Note, when the YOU is there, your efforts through your thoughts and actions are multiplied dramatically. This is what is missing in personal development models that focus on positive thinking and taking action alone.
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