You know the feeling: you’re talking to someone and he or she just goes on and on and on. You really don’t know how to end the conversation gracefully. Ah, how to end long-winded conversations?
Of course, you want to end long-winded conversations in a polite way. This is standard etiquette, and it is the means by which the wheels of human relations are oiled. Knowing how to end long-winded conversations just any old way just won’t do. Shy people often have more trouble knowing how to end conversations gracefully.
I worked in an office once where I was within good hearing range of a woman who was a good conversationalist, and also knew gracefully how to end long-winded conversations, or any kind of conversations for that matter.
Of course, it is best if you can hear such a person yourself to grasp the way he does this, but let me try to convey it to you as best I can.
After engaging in polite conversation for awhile, she would “wind down” the conversation a bit. Just a matter of tying up loose ends. Of course, during the conversation she smiled a lot and made good eye contact.
Now here are the magic words she used to end the conversation:
“Okay, well great!”
It sounds simple, doesn’t it, but grasp the subtle psychology here!
The words “Okay, well great!” convey the following message: “We have now got all the ‘loose ends’ tied up. We can now conclude this conversation!”
“Okay, well great!” (That takes care of that! We have now got the whole thing settled.)”
Of course, the way you say it has a great deal to do with it, as well as your timing. However, this phrase is a good way to know how to end a long-winded conversations. It ends the conversation on a positive note.
Another good way to end the conversation, if the above doesn’t work, is “I’ve got to get back to work now, but it was great talking to you.”
Use the other person’s name in closing the conversation. This will help add a note of finality to the conversation and will also help impress his or her name into your memory.
Try these two techniques and you’ll be well on your way to knowing how to end long-winded conversations.