Copyright 2006 Douglas Alp
Mid-life is a period in time usually around the age of 40 that one starts asking what is the meaning of life, who am I, and what am I doing here on this planet. It is also a time where we start seeing our bodies changing a little. We may start noticing a little extra weight, our skin sagging or wrinkling and we realize that we dont have the energy we used to. At the same time we are somewhat in denial of the fact that we are aging and are wondering about the quality of life and thinking what will I do with the rest of my life.
Many issues arise such as not being happy with ones lifestyle, job, health and relationships. We start questioning decisions that we have made in the past. We seem to be a little board with the way things are and are looking for some kind of change to once again provide the excitement we had at a younger age. We think this cant be all there is. So we start seeking adventure by looking to do something completely different with our lives, change our job or anything that will get us out of this aging boredom rut we got stuck in
These thoughts of boredom, growing old and what we can do about it can take a lot of energy. I guess thats why they call it a crisis. But there are things that one can do to get you out of this rut. You can do things that get you excited about life. Maybe even get your mind and body to cooperate and start living with that mindset that everyday is a new beginning and I will live everyday to the fullest. You can still enjoy life as you mature. You can enjoy life everyday till the day you die.
Something you can do is to focus on the things that bring you satisfaction and pleasure. Of course sex always comes up when you talk about satisfaction and pleasure and maintaining an active sex life is something that can help you keep your body in shape too.
There are many things one can do to relinquish the blues of a Mid-life crisis. One should allow themselves more time to reflex on their life and explore their feeling about life situations, relationships and where they choose to go from here. Reflection is fine for learning to live a better life but dont dwell on this for life is living in the present. Other things that you can do are possibly devote more time to your partner or spouse, rekindle that relationship and find new things that you can do together again. Setting new goals or finding a new hobby is also a great way to get your mind active again. Learning new things always creates an excitement just as when a child is learning something new they are active and excited about life. Taking up traveling, doing volunteer work or spend time with your children or family. Do things that keep you challenged, keep on learning and growing. As Ive heard T. Harv Eckert says if you are not growing you are dying. Plant those seeds again, the seeds of your life and start growing your life from this point on. Start an exercise program. Eat a well balanced diet to shed the few extra pounds you put on over they years. And make sure you are getting the proper sleep. Keep your mind healthy, stay active and finding your purpose will keep you growing and excited about life. And even thou you are aging you are not dead. Its time to live.