You can find out if you have low or high self-confidence by asking yourself the right questions.
If you have high self-confidence, you will agree with the following statements:
– I am eager to learn new things.
– I take pride in doing a good job and being a nice person.
– I can handle criticism without being too emotional.
– I know what things I am good at, and those that I’m not.
– It is okay if I win or if I lose.
– Before I do something, I usually think “I can do it.”
– I like to try to do things without help but, I don’t mind asking for help if I really need it.
– I like myself.
Does this sound like you? If some of the items in this checklist sound like you, that’s good you’re developing self-confidence! Remember to tell yourself everyday that you are a capable person!
Repeat 10 times “I like Myself!”, several times a day.
If this doesn’t sound like you at all, check out the following questionnaire to find out if you have low self-confidence. If you have low self-confidence, you might agree with the following statements:
– I do not like to try new things.
– I can’t do anything right.
– If my friends criticize me, I get very upset.
– I don’t know what I am good at.
– I have a hard time meeting new people or making friends.
– I am embarrassed to ask a question or speak up in a group.
– Before I do something, I may think “I can’t do it.”
– I don’t like to try new things unless someone shows me how to do it first.
– I don’t like myself.
If many or all of these items sound like you, it will be helpful for you to work on raising your self-confidence.
Try these steps to boost your self-esteem and you will automatically boost the level of self-confidence.
– Think positive thoughts about yourself! Focus on your strengths not your weaknesses. Realize that you are better at some things than others.
– Set realistic goals. This means not setting goals too high or too low, but at a level you know you can reach. Then, you can always strive to do better than your goal.
– Give yourself credit when you reach a goal and praise yourself when you have done well. Have a party! who told you it was wrong?
– Learn to be assertive express your thoughts, opinions, needs, and feelings openly but without abusing others’ rights.
– Don’t compare yourself to others – remember, you’re just fine the way you are! Comparison is one of the first reason for low self-esteem and depression. You think that others are better than you. If you think so, you are probably right, but actually, it’s totally wrong.
– Practice positive body language. Walk tall, don’t slump. When your body says “I can” everyone will believe you can.
Assess yourself on a regular basis. Ask yourself these questions. Buy a book or a course on self-confidence and do the assessment again to see if you improved. Learn from it and move on…