Divorce Myths

Pain and grief have long held human interest and are much talked about subjects. You would agree that majority of the news that gets generated, centres around these topics; rarely do news events ever feature happily married couples. Keeping in tandem with public interest, divorce has been a topic of much speculation and plenty of facts have been flouted – some true while the others untrue. We have investigated a few popular myths revolving around divorce and tested their validity.

Myth No.1

Majority of the Divorces are Initiated by Men, While Women are Unwilling to Separate

Statistics proclaim that majority of the divorces are petitioned by women and not men. However, if you would look beyond the calculated figures, you can discern the actual truth.

Though majority of the divorce petitioners are women, they are quite frequently driven to divorce by the prevailing unhappy circumstances in their marriage. Generally, women are non-inclined to separate. For example, even today, adultery ranks as the number one reason that forces spouses apart. Majority of the divorces are filed by women petitioners. As you are aware, divorce on the grounds of adultery is granted only to the victimised party. When the spouse develops a relationship with another person, (and refuses to terminate it) divorce appears to be the only recourse for the wife.

Some marriages get terminated due to the addictive habits of the partner. Men generally develop problems with drinking or drugs. Such marriages have to be terminated to protect the family from suffering the consequences of spousal addictive habits.

Another reason for a divorce is violence. 4% of the divorces are granted on the grounds of physical violence. (An overwhelming majority of physically violent spouses are men.) These statistics do not factor in the emotional abusers. Women are forced to divorce in self defence.

Often, women petitioners try to end an abusive marriage, but find that their sufferings continue for a while, after the divorce.

Myth No.2

After Divorce, Women Suffer Financially More than Men

Many studies have revolved around this topic and their findings univocally indicate that the standard of living of a man increases after a divorce, while that of a woman and her children drops down after the separation. Though the various surveys have come up with different figures, the underlying fact has remained the same.

Many logical reasons can be attributed to this claim:

  • The earning capacity of a woman is lesser than a man¬ís. Quite a few women give up their career and stay at home to take care of the children. After the divorce, when they are forced to re-enter the job market, they fail to find a proper job. The intermediate gap lasting a few years, at best, earns them a low paying job.
  • In most of the divorce cases, mothers get the custody of their children. This is a great financial responsibility and women often find it difficult to make ends meet, in spite of taking up employment.
  • Older aged women suffer more financially after the divorce. 40% of the divorced women in their 60s face financial hardship.
  • Men, on the other hand, concentrate more on their career after the divorce for they are freed of familial responsibilities. Moreover, a job proves to be a diversion from pain in the immediate post-divorce phase. They, thus, earn more and their standard of living subsequently rises.

Pondering over these facts, the courts have enacted just divorce laws and the UK has earned the reputation of being the most female-friendly place for a divorce.

Myth No.3

Divorce Judgements are Biased in Favour of Women

Divorces of the rich always create news ripples, for the former wives always win generous settlements. However, these do not present the exact picture for celebrity divorces account for just 2% of the divorce cases. The laws of the UK are non-discriminately just. Divorcing couples are awarded a 50-50 split of marital assets. Such fair financial settlements are required for women suffer the economic impact of a divorce more than men and it has been proved that children suffer the most due to a reduction in standard of living than by anything else.