Impossible? No or yes, depending on how you see yourself and your environment. So much depends on our own perceptions and on our ability to discover that abundance is not just for others. If, consistently, we have more month than money it is natural to think that thats the way it is and that theres not much we can do to change it. Bosses dont exactly dish out largess, do they? They run their business to make a profit and most of them tend not to pay employees over the odds. For this and a myriad of other reasons, debt is increasingly common and when we are heavily in debt despair can quickly follow on.
That is a sad fact of life. But by changing our thinking we can change our circumstances.
Not overnight, of course. Nothing is that simple. The thing to remember is that contrary to appearances abundance is available to everyone.
Most of us have not been taught to see its availability. As a war baby I was certainly brought up with a lack mentality. During the war itself, of course, and during the immediate post-war years there was much more lack than plenty and in my family as in many others – it was a case of make do and mend. In other words, we had to make do with what we had rather than hanker after something totally unobtainable and if socks, stockings, sweaters or whatever had a hole in them, then out came the darning needle and the hole was painstakingly mended.
We live in a different society now, though, dont we? These days few things are mended while much is thrown away. That seems rather a sad reflection on our so-called affluent society and it isnt helping our planet, either.
But getting back to lack versus abundance: I think many of us are conditioned during our formative years to believe its almost a sin to be rich or at least that riches are for others, not for us.
We dont need to take that conditioning with us through life, though, do we? Its our undeniable right to question it and to re-think.
I have found that if I focus on the money (or item) I lack, my focus brings more lack. Im so busy thinking about what I dont have that I depress myself thoroughly. Whereas, if I picture what Id like to have – and spend time imagining how it will feel to still have money at the end of the month, or to be driving a more reliable car, or to be having a carefree holiday my mood changes from downbeat to upbeat and I begin to see new possibilities. Its important not just to picture these things, but also to experience in advance the emotion that their acquisition will bring. Its also important to be patient and not expect overnight miracles. When we take ourselves in hand and practise new thinking, time is needed for this to begin taking effect.
For example, six years ago I took a picture of my dream-house. This had three stories and from each floor there were breathtaking views across the marina and ocean. I had never lived in such a house before and initially had some difficulty imagining myself living there. But I placed the picture prominently on a dream board I had placed on the wall opposite the desk in my study. So I saw my house every day and in this way it became easier to absorb it into my thinking as a part of my existence.
Mentally I moved in, living my new lifestyle and breathing fresh sea air.
Seven months later a sale-board went up outside my house. Hardly believing my eyes, I inquired about the price and found that thanks to some financial good fortune of just a few days before I could actually afford it! The timing was almost unbelievable, since even a week earlier Id lacked the necessary means to make an offer.
My offer was accepted, I eventually moved in and Ive been living happily in my dream-house ever since. And because of this and other amazing developments Ive learned the importance of thinking the right thoughts.
Truly, you too can discover how to have it all!
Copyright: Pamela Glynn