Beware of the green-eyed monster. Everyone has experienced dealing with jealousy before. It’s a natural characteristic imbued in every person in the world. While jealousy is not usually harmful, there are some instances when it grows out of control.
Unfortunately, dealing with jealousy can be quite tricky. Emotions are pretty hard to dictate, especially one as feisty as jealousy. However, there are proven tips you can follow to quell that green-eyed monster down, such as the ones below.
1) Learn To Be Independent.
Knowing how to take care of yourself brings forth a lot of positive values. And one of those values is being appreciative of what you have.
If you are independent, you’ll be less likely to be swayed by jealousy because you know that what you have right now is something that you worked hard for. You’re not easily tempted by flashy objects because you have a sense of inner fulfillment that not a lot of people have.
2) Talk About It.
Sometimes, dealing with jealousy takes a little communication. If you’re jealous of a friend who keeps flaunting her new bag, for example, you can perhaps talk to her about it. Tell her how lucky she is to have such a luxury, but also tell her youve heard enough (in a nice way, of course).
Most of the time, friends don’t really realize that they’re going overboard. They can go on and on about their new things for days!
If you don’t feel like telling your friend about it, you can also turn to another friend about your feelings – someone who doesn’t have a close relationship with the bragging friend. Sometimes, you just have to let it out and then the jealousy disappears afterwards.
3) Focus On Your Good Points.
After talking to a friend about your feelings, you can concentrate on what you have that others don’t. This is an effective way of dealing with jealousy.
I’m not saying that you should compare yourself with other people. That might just incite the green-eyed monster in them.
Instead, get a piece of paper and write down all your good qualities and all the things you’re thankful for. People don’t really make such lists often, so it might come as a surprise to you how many you can write down. You don’t have to show this list to anybody else. Just read it to yourself afterwards and keep it or throw it away.
Dealing with jealousy can be quite challenging, especially if you have no idea how to handle the situation. However, these tips ought to put your jealousy issues to sleep.