What is Conscious Dating? Wouldn’t you like to know how to date consciously?
Aren’t you tired of wading through one date after another to find Mr. or Ms. Right?
You’re probably not dating just for the fun of it. In other words, it’s not a sport or a hobby for you. Most likely you’re looking for some meaningful contact with another like minded individual. Someone with whom you can share good conversation, fun activities and match up on a number of similar interests.
Whether you’ve just ended a long term relationship or are tired of browsing the on-line dating sites, it’s time you consider Conscious Dating.
What if I could show you how to clarify your objectives and intentions before you wade through the muck and mire of the dating scene?
Your thoughts create your reality – so wouldn’t you like to know what’s really behind those pesky thoughts that keep you going through dates like the proverbial ‘revolving door’?
How about getting to the meat of the issue, creating a fun game around dating and then get the outcome you’re after — a really fun and loving relationship?
Does any of this sound good to you?
Of course it does!
I’ve encapsulated my tried and true system of winning at the dating game. It’s called Conscious Dating. Just for the fun of it I’ve designed a 3 Part Series on Conscious Dating designed to get you moving in the higher vibration of manifesting your desired outcome, whether that’s having fun dating or attracting a fun and loving relationship.
In the first of this Conscious Dating Series I’d like to address “The Game” portion of The Dating Game.
Dating is a GAME!
First, let’s define the word GAME…
1. Game – An amusement or pastime.
2. Game – A competitive activity involving skill, chance, or endurance on the part of two or more persons who play according to a set of rules, usually for their own amusement or for that of spectators.
The second definition sums up the way most of us feel about dating.
But, if it’s not fun, something is out of alignment.
For many, the latter definition contains elements that take the FUN right out of the pursuit of dating. Those elements are:
Competitive activity, Skill, Chance, Endurance and Rules. These are definite fun-busters!
Interestingly enough, these are the things to AVOID when dating.
FIVE Things To AVOID When Dating
1. Competitive activity.
This is not the time to compare yourself, you Ex-, your achievements, with his or hers.
Having to prove your skill at being an enjoyable partner is too much work and that will show.
Remember you chose to go on this date. Ultimately, there is no chance involved.
A date is not a contest to see who can last the longest at being entertaining or amusing.
Hard and fast rules are the end to possibility.
FIVE Things To DO When Dating
Though these may sound simple, I’ll bet most of you don’t approach dating as play. Remember when you were the innocent kid playing in the mud? How sublime was that? No place to go, nothing to prove. Just muddy fun! Find ways to approach your date with fun. Even if your date is a serious type. Make it your game to find fun. You don’t have to see him or her again if they can’t play and have fun.
A cousin of Play, laughter is the most infectious way to spread joy. Before going on any date, especially a first date, remind yourself that you will consciously look for reasons to feel good and laugh. Smile a lot. At the waitress or waiter, at the host. Just smile for no reason.
This is such an important way to connect with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the voices in your head and tune in to what the person across the table is saying. Granted, your critical voice may be wanting to sound off for a variety of reasons. You don’t like the way he slurps his soup. She constantly plays with her hair. Things like that can be distractions. Just notice yourself being distracted and bring yourself back. Again, you don’t have to see them again. This is an important practice, however, and it is an intimacy builder. You will want to adopt this quality in your long term relationship, so why not get your practice in now. By the way, you don’t have to use listening just in the dating world.
4. Eye Contact
Don’t just make eye contact and nod your head. Practice deep listening while making eye contact. This is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can promise you, your generosity will come back to you.
When it’s your time to talk, be clear and be heard. As you have given your attention to your date, expect the same. You haven’t interrupted him or her while he or she has been talking. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about this without turning it into a problem. Just kindly ask for what you’d like. Feeling confident in your request takes alot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you prefer.
It doesn’t matter if your 25 or 75 dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, goes much more smoothly for everyone.
In Part Two in our Conscious Dating Series, I’ll be covering …
Playing with Passion and Purpose