Of all the problems your child could experience, bullying is probably one of the most serious. This article helps you to identify some of the signs that may indicate your child is being bullied.
Any behavior that intimidates or causes your child distress, hurt or pain whether emotionally, physically or a combination of these is regarded as bullying. There is no particular reason why a child may be susceptible to being bullied. For example, a child may be bullied because they wear contact lenses, or because of their appearance, religion, race, signs of poverty, family break-up, being shy or quiet. A child that stands out to be different from other children is usually picked on by the bully because the bully feels they can easily be bullied.
The confidence of a child can be destroyed by bullying leaving them feeling worthless, frightened, withdrawn and quite alone. The consequence of bullying could impact on the life of a child if not stopped quickly for many years.
The conclusion of numerous surveys of groups of children recently is that more than 50% said they had been bullied at school. It would appear that despite the fact that most schools have in place an anti-bullying policy, bullying continues to be a major issue for children of all ages.
Parents therefore need to learn how to spot the tell-tale signs that might indicate that their child is being bullied in school, or any club or society that he or she attends. These signs do not automatically point to bullying, but they can be a useful indicator. Here are some signs to check in your child:
Money for food and drink taken.
Fewer friends than before, or has no friends these days.
Shows high levels of anxiety.
A change in the behavior of your child might be they have become moody, depressed, tearful, or possibly quiet and withdrawn.
Torn clothes visible after returning from school.
Your child has unexplained cuts and bruises.
Money for lunch has been taken.
Feeling sick before school, or has a headache, or stomach ache, and therefore does not want to attend school that day.
Has lost interest in studying and school grades have recently fallen.
Takes a different route to school than previously.
Has unexplained cuts and bruises.
Lunch money has been taken.
Says they do not want to take the bus to school anymore.
Interest in taking part in school activities has reduced.
Nowadays, because of modern technology many children have a cell/mobile phone and Internet access. Phone numbers and email addresses are often shared with friends. However, friendships can easily end and personal information can later be used against a child to cause pain and embarrassment.
So the question is: Does your child have a cell/mobile phone? A bully could be sending your child rude, threatening or horrible text messages. Unpleasant messages may also be left on an answer phone. Do you know if this is happening to your child?
Your child may also be bullied by receiving threatening emails or there may be a very unpleasant campaign carried out by several children against your child through emails or through unmonitored Internet chat rooms. In this regard, parents clearly need to closely monitor the use of these modern methods of communication by their children.
If your child is suffering, it is possible that the cause is not bullying but some other problem. It may be prudent to check out the reason as your child might be genuinely unwell. You are in the best position to determine what the problem is as you know your child better than anyone else. Seek medical help if necessary.
It is necessary to carry out a careful and thorough investigation to confirm or otherwise whether or not your child is being bullied. It is only when you have done this investigation that you will know the answer. Once you know, you can take whatever action is needed. To protect your child it is very important that you do not leave anything to chance, so check carefully and regularly.