Copyright © 2005 Jeff Griswold, Effective Learning Systems, Inc.
Part 1 of 2
It’s no secret that self-confidence is very important to
achieving success in any area of life. The thing about
self-confidence is that it is very sensitive to our personal
experience and is inherently instable. In other words, your
self-confidence has a snowball affect. And it can snowball in a
positive direction or it can snowball in a negative direction.
Heres how it works:
How the Negative Snowball works
1. If you start out with low self-confidence (see below to learn
more about how this happens), youre less likely to take on
challenges or try new things.
2. On the rare occasion that you try to accomplish something,
your low self-confidence can sabotage your efforts and youre
much less likely to succeed.
3. Your lack of accomplishment and your failures reinforce your
4. Then its back to step 1 and the cycle repeats; limiting your
ability to live a better life.
How the Positive Snowball works
1. If you have self-confidence, youre more likely to attempt
just about anything, so you try more things.
2. And when you attempt something with confidence in your
abilities, youre very likely to succeed.
3. As a result, your success increases your self-confidence.
4. Return to step 1 and repeat, and repeat, and repeat until you
reach your full potential!
Wearing a Groove in Your Brain
At the risk of over-simplifying a phenomenally complex process,
whats happening in your brain is that these snowball cycles
wear a groove through the vast array of neurons and synapses.
So, neurologically you are physically carving a path of least
resistance through your brain. With enough reinforcement, you
develop a reflex to certain kinds of stimuli.
For example, if a smoker tries to quit smoking and fails and he
allows a negative snowball cycle to take place hell lose
confidence in his ability to quit. And hell eventually develop a
negative reflex to the idea of quitting. Once that happens, if
anyone suggests that he quit or someone offers a new way to try
to quit, his brain will automatically reject the possibility. In
his brain, the mere suggestion of quitting will trigger an
impulse that will follow that well-worn path of least resistance;
the path that equates trying to quit with failure.
But this works the other way, too. A positive snowball cycle will
wear a groove that creates a positive reflex. Weve all known
people like this. Theyre the ones who are eager to try anything
and seem to succeed at everything. And in the rare occasions when
they fail, they are undeterred. The positive reflex theyve
created in their brain allows them to learn from their mistakes
and equate failure with Ill do even better next time!
How Does the Low Self-Confidence Cycle Start?
Unfortunately, virtually everyone has been programmed from
childhood with negatives that make us believe we can’t do things
that we are innately capable of doing. A lot of it is
self-imposed programming. If we fail to do something perfectly
the first time we try it, it is only human nature to begin to
believe that we can’t do it.
We also receive negative programming from others that can greatly
impact our self-confidence. We are told repeatedly as a child
“You can’t do this or “You’ll never be able to do that. If we
accept this programming which, again, is only human nature
our self-confidence is weakened accordingly.
Take a moment now to think back on your own life. Think about the
things that youve been led to believe you cannot attain but that
you know intellectually are entirely possible. It could be
anything; a certain level of income; academic achievement; great
athletic performance; success at love, etc. If youre like most
people, it wont take long to come up with a sizable list.
Fortunately, when some people are told they can’t do something,
they refuse to accept that programming and go on to prove that
they indeed can. For example;
· Beethoven’s teacher said he was hopeless as a composer.
· Thomas Edison’s teachers said he was too stupid to learn
· Leo Tolstoy, the author of War & Peace, was told he couldn’t
· Albert Einstein did not speak until he was 4, didn’t read until
he was 7. His teacher called him mentally slow.
· One of the early teachers of the great opera singer Enrico
Caruso said he had no voice at all & could not sing.
There are many other examples, but the point is that each and
every one of us has given up on at least one thing because we
lacked the confidence to try! And the world has undoubtedly been
robbed of the great contributions of countless gifted people
because of such negativity.
In Part 2 of this report, youll learn that your self-confidence
can be reprogrammed. Youll learn about the different
techniques that have been proven to be very effective and Ill
focus on one technique that you can start to use immediately that
will instantly begin to help you improve your confidence and