Wouldnt it be grand if we could just wake up in the morning, brush our teeth and put on our confidence for the day?
Well, for those of us who dont have a drawer full, here are 4 simple strategies that will help you build confidence.
1. Accentuate the positive.
Be your own best friend. What do you tell a friend whos tried something new, whether or not it turned out well? At least you tried something new- good for you!
Accentuate the effort it took in doing something, rather than the final outcome. (Youd do it for your best friend, wouldnt you?) We all have limitations. The key is to accept that you have them without dwelling on them.
2. Dont be afraid to take some risks.
When you are about to embark on a new experience, do you spend your time worrying so much about the outcome you arent enjoying the moment? If you look at new things in your life as a chance to learn something, it opens up the possibility of you becoming good at that something.
If you spend your time dreading the outcome, youll turn any opportunity there might have been into a failure. Whats more, we cant grow when we are frozen with fear. Dont set yourself up to fail. If you do, look at number one, again!
3. Use self-talk to keep assumptions away.
We all use self-talk. The key is to use it in a way that we dont form bad thoughts that can lead to permanent doubts. Catch yourself using negative self-talk and cancel it with something positive and not based on assumptions!
Build confidence by not expecting perfection from yourself at all times. You can only do your very best at something. Nobody can do everything perfectly, so why do you assume that you should be able to?
4. Learn to rely on your self-evaluation.
If you always rely on the opinion of others, youll always be wondering what they think! That does nothing to build confidence – it tears it down, by giving away your personal power to others.
Focus on the real you, inside, to find out how you feel about your own actions, how youve been doing your job, etc. Youll be developing a strong sense of who you are.
Its important to remember that no one can be self-confident all of the time. In fact, youll build confidence faster and easier once your realize that.
Most people with low self-esteem or who lack in confidence are that way because of unrealistic expectations. They expect more from themselves than they do others.
A person with low self-esteem will think nothing about calling him or herself a stupid idiot. They wouldnt dream of saying that to someone else. To build confidence its a good idea to be your own best friend.