To truly comprehend violence and the anger that pushes it, one must understand the four basic root causes of anger. But even deeper than just that, one must go to the deepest meaning of who we are, our personal way of being.
People fit in one of two catagories; responsive or resistant. A responsive person is more open and kind; while, a resistant person is closed, unkind, and uncaring. Resistant, self-deceived criminals commit violent crimes from the inner-most sense of who they are.
-All criminals commit violence in their hearts before doing it with their hands.
-Violence is not necessarily a hit, but a way of being.
-Violence is a choice.
-Nonviolence, just like violence, goes deeper than merely behavior.
-Violent people disconnect themselves from the feelings of those around them.
-Those who are resistant believe, �I hurt other people by marginalizing their reality and treating them as an object. In doing so, I elevate myself.�
-In the resistant way of being, �I fight for control without mercy or compassion.�
-When children are violated, future generations are devastated.
-�When I violate others, I produce a violence in them that justifies me in violating them�
-In the resistant way of being, �I invite problems into my life, not solutions.”
-Violent people endeavor to portray themselves in ways that make the wrong they do appear to be right.
-In the resistant way of being, �I impede the flow of life�s light and energy. I repel others and live a life filled with self.�
Violence in society comes about because of the citizen’s way of being. To intervene in violent behavior, an individual must leave his or her resistant ways and become responsive. This requires an entire change of being.
A program that doesn�t help people at their deepest level is going to fail. Anger management and behavior modification techniques are just surface remedies that do not penetrate deep enough to create life-long changes. Cognitive restructuring, if done correctly, allows individuals to become �self aware� and thus more eager to change their personal way of being. Cognitive restructuring is not force but an invitation to change. It intervenes at the deepest level where life-long changes can take place.
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