Anger is a natural emotion. It may be seen as annoyance and a physical assault. Children learn how to express anger by the examples that we give them. They learn from our verbal statements and behavior. It is difficult for a child to control their anger as they will slowly learn the different norms of society. If parents don’t have discipline of anger control, they will never able to teach their children. If parents fail to teach their children how to cope up with their anger, the children will become angry teens and then troubled adults.
Anger management in children will give better results if you start early. This can be started when a child displays anger. He should be explained how to express his anger appropriately with us as adults. Children’s angry responses may vary individually but they are common as physical aggression such as hitting and kicking, crying, screaming and temper tantrums, verbal aggression such yelling and swearing, avoidance tactics, running away or giving parents and friends the “silent treatment”.
Because of stressful modern life kids are exposed to occasional violence and high levels of stress and anxiety. They are angry because they cannot cope with this and their response can swing from mild irritation all the way up to intense rage. First step to teach your child is to understand the cause of his anger. The best way to teach your children is to show them the correct way you used to deal with your anger. It may be “still and know”. It shows you how to get to the root cause of your anger. It is a meditation technique. It is used to understand and neutralize your anger. It doesn’t repress your anger but it helps to rid yourself of that emotion and replace it with objectivity.
Anger solves nothing, it is useless. It never makes you feel better. It causes you to lose control of your behavior. It is dangerous because it is destructive. When in angry mood people make poor decisions, hurt themselves and others. Explain this to your children with example. You should practice the five techniques for anger management in children.
Using substitute like counting 10 numbers can be used. Give rewards for practicing good behavior every day. Encourage the child to use new behavior and avoid arguments and correct him consistently.
These skills are hard to learn but they are so important, that you need to practice them your child every day for a few months. Once a child has learned to deal with his anger, he may not need as much help with it.