Anger Coping Skills and Tips – Self Talk

Trainers should use all the four common teaching methods – instruction, modeling, role play, and feedback. Trainers will need to educate about how our opinion can influence our approach and behavior. If an important person bumps into us and we tell ourselves that he did this on reason, we are more likely to get distress. However, if we tell ourselves that it was a misfortune, we are less likely to get distress. If we give ourselves good commands during the infuriating condition, we will be more likely to respond suitably. In this article you will find effective anger coping skills and tips.

To educate how to manage anger, discuss with students the underlying principle for the topic. Provide information about how our opinion can influence our emotions. Just as other people can make us feel annoyed by what they say, we can get ourselves distress by what we say to ourselves. Give the few examples – Our manager shouts at us. If we think that he is out to acquire us, we will get angry. If we think that he is just having an awful day, we may not get angry.

Our colleagues spill something on some copies we just completed. If we think he is out to get us fired or into problem, we will be irritated. If we tell ourselves it was just an accident, we are less likely to irritate.
Our spouse comes home not on time. If we think he/she is cheating on us, we will get angry. Or, if we think he/she has been an accident, we may feel concerned. Our child is creating dramas in the store. If we think he is doing it on reason and all of the people in the store are irritated with us, we may get distress. If we think that there is something incorrect with the child and most people maybe don’t care, we are less likely to get distress.

A colleague brings us a card for our birthday or anniversary. If we think he actually likes us and wants to spend some time with us, we may have feelings of magnetism and a desire to spend some time with him/her. If we think that he is just being kind, we will have approach of friendship, but may not have loving feelings. Pick a role-play and have a student practice the coping abilities to control anger. The student should practice deep breathing while the instructor says the self-statements for the student. Using the same role-play, have the student do deep breathing while he/she makes the statements out loud.

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