Copyright 2006 Cari Vollmer
Weve all experienced moments in our life when we hear ourselves say YES to a job, person or situation we know deep in our heart isnt right for us. And still we do it. As soon as yes leaves our lips somewhere in us we hear a voice that screams NO! Dont do it! but somehow another part of us kicks in and our mind overrules the wisdom of our body and we find ourselves on a path we never intended.
Sometimes these wrong turns can be detrimental to our wellbeing. They cause stress and put us in danger of losing ourselves indefinitely. Other times we immediately realize our yes has led to an o-oh and we decide right then and there to go back to the beginning and start again.
Either way, when you find yourself in a sticky situation, only you have the power to declare you took a wrong turn and only you can decide when its time to get back on track. These tips may help.
Be honest with yourself. Admit, as quickly as possible, you made a choice that led you down the wrong path. Nothing will change until you personally acknowledge the decision you made isnt working for you. The sooner, the better. Be willing to take 100% responsibility for the choices you make for your life.
Plan an exit strategy. Once youve admitted to yourself youre on the wrong path, decide how youre going to get back on track. In some situations it may be necessary for you to stop what youre doing immediately. Most of the time, a fast exit may lead to even more stress and poor decision making. Take the time you need to get very clear on what it is you do want, and get back on track one step at a time.
Be gentle with yourself. Beating yourself up will only damage your self esteem. Realize everyone takes wrong turns even the most successful individuals take several wrong turns before getting it right. Remember, life is ten percent how we make it and ninety percent how we take it.
Look for the lesson. There are no mistakes and theres always a lesson to be learned and even a blessing. What did taking a wrong turn teach you about yourself? Do you need to listen to your gut more and others less? Do you need to finally listen to your heart and follow its calling? Do you need to value yourself more? Do you need to redefine what success means to you?
Do better next time. Life is full of second chances. Be willing to take them! Let go of the past and commit to do whatever it takes to get back on the right track. The wisdom youve gained from taking a wrong turn will help you do better next time.
Theres only one way to live life on your right track. Listen to your heart. It holds the secret to your happiness and the key to your success.